10-03: Letting Go…

Letting Go…

I’ve had a few arguments with people, but I never carry a grudge.  You know why?  While you’re carrying a grudge, they’re out dancing. ~Buddy Hackett~

It’s natural to experience times of feeling mistreated, misunderstood, cheated or of being dealt with unfairly.  But you do not have to allow those feelings to affect your own behavior and attitudes going forward.  Continuing to dwell on them, and allowing them to fester and grow, will only make you miserable, not the person to whom they are directed against.  Let those inclinations go as quickly as they come, and feel the liberation of your own soul that comes as a result.  Life’s too short to allow your joy to be stolen in that fashion.

Thought for the day
The most difficult challenge in recovering from addiction is not staying away from our drug of choice.  It is not even doing the things our sponsors and old timers tell us we need to do in order to recover.  We reluctantly go to meetings, reach out and fellowship and slowly become intimate in our relationships.  No the most difficult obstacle is learning to deal with life on life’s terms.  The maintenance steps, beginning with the 10th step, warn us that “this is the acid test- can we stay sober under all conditions.  See recovery for us cannot have conditions; it cannot be contingent on outside issues. ” The quicker we begin to let go of defensiveness, victimization, the poor me, the world is against me, the if only, the they don’t understand attitudes of our addictive life the quicker we can become loving, kind and compassionate human beings willing to serve rather than be served.  And that is what this program is all about!

For if you forgive people their trespasses [their reckless and willful sins, leaving them, letting them go, and giving up resentment], your heavenly Father will also forgive you.
~Jesus / Matthew 6:14 (Amp)~

When angry, do not sin; do not ever let your wrath (your exasperation, your fury or indignation) last until the sun goes down.  Leave no [such] room or foothold for the devil [give no opportunity to him]…And do not grieve the Holy Spirit of God [do not offend or vex or sadden Him]…Let all bitterness and indignation and wrath (passion, rage, bad temper) and resentment (anger, animosity) and quarreling (brawling, clamor, contention) and slander (evil-speaking, abusive or blasphemous language) be banished from you, with all malice (spite, ill will, or baseness of any kind).  And become useful and helpful and kind to one another, tenderhearted (compassionate, understanding, loving-hearted), forgiving one another [readily and freely], as God in Christ forgave you.
~Ephesians 4:26,27,30-32 (Amp)~

Strive to live in peace with everybody…in order that no root of resentment (rancor, bitterness, or hatred) shoots forth and causes trouble and bitter torment, and the many become contaminated and defiled by it.
~Hebrews 12:14-15 (Amp)~

The name of the star was Bitterness.  It made one-third of the water bitter, and many people died from drinking the bitter water.
~Revelation 8:11 (NLT)~


About SLAA Tilburg

Wat is seks- en liefdeverslaving? Wij in S.L.A.A. geloven dat seks- en liefdeverslaving een voortschrijdende ziekte is, die niet kan worden genezen maar die, zoals veel ziekten, wel tot staan kan worden gebracht. Zij kan verschillende vormen aannemen – inclusief (maar niet beperkt tot) een dwangmatige behoefte aan seks, extreme afhankelijkheid van één persoon (of meerdere personen), en/of een voortdurend in beslag genomen worden door romantiek, affaires of fantasieën. Er is sprake van een obsessief-dwangmatig patroon, seksueel of emotioneel (of beide), waarin relaties of seksuele activiteiten in toenemende mate destructief geworden zijn voor de loopbaan, het gezinsleven en het gevoel van zelfrespect. Als seks- en liefdeverslaving wordt veronachtzaamd, wordt zij altijd erger. Wanneer wij echter een eenvoudig programma volgen dat voor een reeks van mannen en vrouwen met dezelfde ziekte succesvol is gebleken, kunnen wij herstellen. In S.L.A.A. leren wij de realiteit te accepteren dat wij deze verslaving hebben
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