28-02: Good and Evil

Good and Evil

How much more grievous are the consequences of anger than the causes of it.
~Marcus Aurelius~
It’s natural to feel angry at times; when we feel that we or someone we care about have been dealt with unjustly.  But, we do not have to allow that anger to take root, and control our own behavior.  The destructive consequences of allowing it to fester and grow, and control our own thoughts and actions, will always far outweigh any damage caused by whatever it is that angered us in the first place.  For us recovering addicts there is no such thing as justified anger.  It is a luxury we should not entertain lest it develop into a full blown resentment and as the Big Book states; there’s nothing that will bring back an addict to his drug of choice quicker than a resentment that has not been dealt with!

Thought for the day
Do I have any remnants of old problematic relationships that remain unresolved and are a source of negativity in me?  Do I have any friendships that have turned sour and are causing me to look at myself and consider who I really am?  DO I resent my sponsor reminding me to check if I am as “spiritually fit” as I think I am… the nerve of him!  Do I have a work relationship that is driving me nuts?  Am I stuffing those feelings of unhappiness for the sake of a paycheck?  Do I resent my spouse for not trusting me? If you answer no to all these questions, go directly to jail, do not pass Go, do not collect $200 and stay there until you encounter the TRUTH!

When angry do not sin; do not ever let your wrath (your exasperation, your fury or indignation) last until the sun goes down.  Leave no [such] room or foothold for the devil [give no opportunity to him].  Let all bitterness and indignation and wrath (passion, rage, bad temper) and resentment (anger, animosity) and quarreling (brawling, clamor, contention) and slander (evil-speaking, abusive or blasphemous language) be banished from you, with all malice (spite, ill will, or baseness of any kind).  And become useful and helpful and kind to one another, tenderhearted (compassionate, understanding, loving-hearted), forgiving one another [readily and freely], as God in Christ forgave you. Ephesians 4:26-32

But now you yourselves are to put off all these: anger, wrath, malice, blasphemy, filthy language out of your mouth. Do not lie to one another, since you have put off the old man with his deeds, and have put on the new man (Die to be reborn) who is renewed in knowledge according to the image of Him who created him, where there is neither Greek nor Jew…slave nor free, but Christ is all and in all.  Therefore, as the elect of God, holy and beloved, put on tender mercies, kindness, humility, meekness, longsuffering; bearing with one another, and forgiving one another, if anyone has a complaint against another; even as Christ forgave you, so you also must do. But above all these things put on love, which is the bond of perfection.  And let the peace of God rule in your hearts, to which also you were called in one body; and be thankful. ~Colossians 3:8-15 (NKJV)~

Heavenly Father, If I am honest I will admit to you and others that I am ruled by the tendencies to act as the old me, giving in to the temptation to strike back and get even.  It is so easy to allow the old ways of acting seep back into my life.  It’s just plain comfortable.    However, because you are merciful and kind I have learned new ways of dealing with life’s injustices and periodically I get a glimpse of what that looks like.  When I do and act accordingly as You will for me …then I experience serenity for I am truly at peace with the world around me.
Help me today to experience personal freedom by not letting me pass judgment on another human being…help me to reject the callings of Satan who wishes to keep me in my own bondage to self, poisoning my very own existence so I continue to seek relief outside of myself.  Yes, Lord it is indeed the struggle between good and evil in me!  Please help me win today!


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Wat is seks- en liefdeverslaving? Wij in S.L.A.A. geloven dat seks- en liefdeverslaving een voortschrijdende ziekte is, die niet kan worden genezen maar die, zoals veel ziekten, wel tot staan kan worden gebracht. Zij kan verschillende vormen aannemen – inclusief (maar niet beperkt tot) een dwangmatige behoefte aan seks, extreme afhankelijkheid van één persoon (of meerdere personen), en/of een voortdurend in beslag genomen worden door romantiek, affaires of fantasieën. Er is sprake van een obsessief-dwangmatig patroon, seksueel of emotioneel (of beide), waarin relaties of seksuele activiteiten in toenemende mate destructief geworden zijn voor de loopbaan, het gezinsleven en het gevoel van zelfrespect. Als seks- en liefdeverslaving wordt veronachtzaamd, wordt zij altijd erger. Wanneer wij echter een eenvoudig programma volgen dat voor een reeks van mannen en vrouwen met dezelfde ziekte succesvol is gebleken, kunnen wij herstellen. In S.L.A.A. leren wij de realiteit te accepteren dat wij deze verslaving hebben
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