Today’s thought from Hazelden is:
The true use of speech is not so much to express our wants as to conceal them.
Learning to communicate, for little children, means squeezing huge desires into little words, like “hurt” or “cookie.” We learn early that we’re only going to get part of what we want.
Some of us never recover from this disappointment. We use words to manipulate others, to hide our feelings. We may imagine that we have the power to control others, and so we tell ingenious stories to mask what we think is our naked strength.
But we’re deluding ourselves, rather than other people. The strategy of falsehood and control finally traps us in a web of lies, where even we don’t know what we want. Clarity is a choice, and so is happiness, if we want to choose them.
Asking for something is risky: I might be refused. But if I don’t even ask, I’ll never hear “yes.”
You are reading from the book:
The Promise of a New Day by Karen Casey and Martha Vanceburg
The Promise of a New Day by Karen Casey & Martha Vanceburg. Copyright 1983, 1991 by Hazelden Foundation. All rights reserved. Printed in the United States of America. No portion of this publication may be reproduced in any manner without the written permission of Hazelden.