10-01: When Change is Good…

When Change is Good… 

When it becomes more difficult to suffer than to change…you will change.
~Dr. Robert Anthony~

Many times, our suffering and pain is a direct result of a rebellious refusal to change something in our own lives or nature that is the direct or indirect cause of the suffering to begin with.  It’s easy to blame chance, circumstance, other people, Satan (or even God) for things that go wrong.  But as often as not, we only have ourselves to blame.  Whether it is a change in thought, attitude, actions, or desires…look inwardly at what can be done to remedy the situation, not outwardly.  Amazingly, circumstances, relationships, and our own perception of things suddenly improve when we focus first on that which we can immediately change…our own perspective, nature and tendencies.    

Thought for the day

Are there some things in my life that just keep happening as a result of certain behaviors I just can’t seem to let go off.  “Nothing changes until something changes”

But now put away and rid yourselves [completely] of all these things: anger, rage, bad feeling toward others, curses and slander, and foulmouthed abuse and shameful utterances from your lips!  Do not lie to one another, for you have stripped off the old (unregenerate) self with its evil practices, And have clothed yourselves with the new [spiritual self], which is [ever in the process of being] renewed and remolded into [fuller and more perfect knowledge upon] knowledge after the image (the likeness) of Him Who created it.  Clothe yourselves therefore, as God’s own chosen ones (His own picked representatives), [who are] purified and holy and well-beloved [by God Himself, by putting on behavior marked by] tenderhearted pity and mercy, kind feeling, a lowly opinion of yourselves, gentle ways, [and] patience [which is tireless and long-suffering, and has the power to endure whatever comes, with good temper].  Be gentle and forbearing with one another and, if one has a difference (a grievance or complaint) against another, readily pardoning each other; even as the Lord has [freely] forgiven you, so must you also [forgive]. ~Colossians 3:8-10,12-15 (Amp)~

Do not be conformed to this world (this age), [fashioned after and adapted to its external, superficial customs], but be transformed (changed) by the [entire] renewal of your mind [by its new ideals and new attitude], so that you may prove [for yourselves] what is the good and acceptable and perfect will of God, even the thing which is good, and acceptable and perfect [in His sight for you]. 
~Romans 12:1,2 (Amp)~



Father God, the most difficult challenge for me is to change myself.  I can’t do it.  Even if I had the natural wisdom to know what to change I do not have the persistence required to keep focused on the work I need to do.   And so I come to you for that unnatural gift of humility, the precious gift of wisdom and the courage to keep working on those behaviors, character defects and subtleties that keep me from becoming all that You call me to be.  Help me to change me Lord!  In Jesus’ name I pray. Amen!


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Wat is seks- en liefdeverslaving? Wij in S.L.A.A. geloven dat seks- en liefdeverslaving een voortschrijdende ziekte is, die niet kan worden genezen maar die, zoals veel ziekten, wel tot staan kan worden gebracht. Zij kan verschillende vormen aannemen – inclusief (maar niet beperkt tot) een dwangmatige behoefte aan seks, extreme afhankelijkheid van één persoon (of meerdere personen), en/of een voortdurend in beslag genomen worden door romantiek, affaires of fantasieën. Er is sprake van een obsessief-dwangmatig patroon, seksueel of emotioneel (of beide), waarin relaties of seksuele activiteiten in toenemende mate destructief geworden zijn voor de loopbaan, het gezinsleven en het gevoel van zelfrespect. Als seks- en liefdeverslaving wordt veronachtzaamd, wordt zij altijd erger. Wanneer wij echter een eenvoudig programma volgen dat voor een reeks van mannen en vrouwen met dezelfde ziekte succesvol is gebleken, kunnen wij herstellen. In S.L.A.A. leren wij de realiteit te accepteren dat wij deze verslaving hebben
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