06-01: Pain for a recovering addict…is not optional.

Pain for a recovering addict…is not optional.

You cannot prevent the birds of sorrow from flying over your head, but you can prevent them from building nests in your hair. ~Chinese Proverb~

It’s natural to feel sorrow over certain things that happen in our lives, but to continue to languish in that sorrow is an extremely destructive force.  We have been relying on our drug of choice for so long; many of us go thru a grief period when we actually mourn the loss of our “reliable friend” addiction.  In recovery, knowing where and who with our hope lies will turn that sorrow back to joy, and provide once again a zest for life.  Bad things happen, but the simple truth is, we must go on.  It is a conscious decision and choice, whether to go forth with joy, or remain in pain.

Thought for the day
Our instincts gone astray want us to confuse our needs and our wants.  Our addiction, guided by Satan, wants us to believe that our wants are our needs. And when we don’t get them met, we are then entitled to live in misery, anger, disappointment and frustration…fertile ground in which to feed our addictive thoughts and ideas.   Pain is necessary for growth but misery is truly optional!  Are we ready to stop playing the victim of life and get on with the business of living joyfully in the reality and truth that is God’s will for us?   Nothing of permanent benefit to our spirit will happen without pain and so it is we continue to trudge the road and deal with life on life’s terms giving all difficult things to the One we can always count on.  Do I choose to be free and joyful today!  If we live in God’s will, we will always know what is a need or a want because God will always supply our needs!!!!

Sing to the Lord, O you saints of His, and give thanks at the remembrance of His holy name.  For His anger is but for a moment, but His favor is for a lifetime or in His favor is life.  Weeping may endure for a night, but joy comes in the morning. ~Psalm 30:4,5 (Amp)~

Therefore we do not become discouraged (utterly spiritless, exhausted, and wearied out through fear).  Though our outer man is [progressively] decaying and wasting away, yet our inner self is being [progressively] renewed day after day.  For our light, momentary affliction (this slight distress of the passing hour) is ever more and more abundantly preparing and producing and achieving for us an everlasting weight of glory beyond


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Wat is seks- en liefdeverslaving? Wij in S.L.A.A. geloven dat seks- en liefdeverslaving een voortschrijdende ziekte is, die niet kan worden genezen maar die, zoals veel ziekten, wel tot staan kan worden gebracht. Zij kan verschillende vormen aannemen – inclusief (maar niet beperkt tot) een dwangmatige behoefte aan seks, extreme afhankelijkheid van één persoon (of meerdere personen), en/of een voortdurend in beslag genomen worden door romantiek, affaires of fantasieën. Er is sprake van een obsessief-dwangmatig patroon, seksueel of emotioneel (of beide), waarin relaties of seksuele activiteiten in toenemende mate destructief geworden zijn voor de loopbaan, het gezinsleven en het gevoel van zelfrespect. Als seks- en liefdeverslaving wordt veronachtzaamd, wordt zij altijd erger. Wanneer wij echter een eenvoudig programma volgen dat voor een reeks van mannen en vrouwen met dezelfde ziekte succesvol is gebleken, kunnen wij herstellen. In S.L.A.A. leren wij de realiteit te accepteren dat wij deze verslaving hebben
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