28-12: The Blessing in Forgiveness…

The Blessing in Forgiveness…

Sincere forgiveness isn’t colored with expectations that the other person apologize or change.  Don’t worry whether or not they finally understand you. Love them and release them.  Life feeds back truth to people in its own way and time — just like it does for you and me.  ~Sara Paddison~

When we learn to fully forgive those who we feel have committed some wrong against us, without expectation, we find that we have not only released them, but the bonds of bitterness, resentment, and pride that have held us captive as well.  Thus, one might well consider who actually benefits the most from the act, the person that has been forgiven or we ourselves?

Thought for the day
Is it any wonder we are told by old timers that insofar as resentments are concerned they are a luxury better left for others who can handle them?  It is said that resentments lead us to drink the poison we intended to use on others.  Since this program is soooooooo much about change, isn’t time we grew up and matured so that we stop trying to kill ourselves?  When will we start giving up those resentments that keep us bound to compulsive addictive behavior and harden our hearts so that the light of God cannot penetrate?
Do not leave 2008 with any blackness for anyone surrounding your heart!

For if you forgive people their trespasses [their reckless and willful sins, leaving them, letting them go, and giving up resentment], your heavenly Father will also forgive you.  But if you do not forgive others their trespasses…neither will your Father forgive you your trespasses. ~Jesus / Matthew 6:14,15 (Amp)~

Then Peter came to Him and said, “Lord, how often shall my brother sin against me, and I forgive him? Up to seven times?”  Jesus said to him, “I do not say to you, up to seven times, but up to seventy times seven.” ~Matthew 18:21,22 (NKJV)~

And when they had come to the place called Calvary, there they crucified Him, and the criminals, one on the right hand and the other on the left. Then Jesus said, “Father, forgive them, for they do not know what they do.” ~Luke 23:33,34 (NKJV)~

Since God chose you to be the holy people whom he loves, you must clothe yourselves with tenderhearted mercy, kindness, humility, gentleness, and patience. You must make allowance for each other’s faults and forgive the person who offends you. Remember, the Lord forgave you, so you must forgive others. And the most important piece of clothing you must wear is love. Love is what binds us all together in perfect harmony. ~Colossians 3:12-14 (NLT)~


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Wat is seks- en liefdeverslaving? Wij in S.L.A.A. geloven dat seks- en liefdeverslaving een voortschrijdende ziekte is, die niet kan worden genezen maar die, zoals veel ziekten, wel tot staan kan worden gebracht. Zij kan verschillende vormen aannemen – inclusief (maar niet beperkt tot) een dwangmatige behoefte aan seks, extreme afhankelijkheid van één persoon (of meerdere personen), en/of een voortdurend in beslag genomen worden door romantiek, affaires of fantasieën. Er is sprake van een obsessief-dwangmatig patroon, seksueel of emotioneel (of beide), waarin relaties of seksuele activiteiten in toenemende mate destructief geworden zijn voor de loopbaan, het gezinsleven en het gevoel van zelfrespect. Als seks- en liefdeverslaving wordt veronachtzaamd, wordt zij altijd erger. Wanneer wij echter een eenvoudig programma volgen dat voor een reeks van mannen en vrouwen met dezelfde ziekte succesvol is gebleken, kunnen wij herstellen. In S.L.A.A. leren wij de realiteit te accepteren dat wij deze verslaving hebben
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