19-12: A Valuable Truth…

A Valuable Truth…

I conceive that the great part of the miseries of mankind are brought upon them by false estimates they have made of the value of things.  ~Benjamin Franklin~

Too often, we get caught up in the expectation that “things” will make us happy…once I get this, then I’ll be happy…once I have that, then I’ll be satisfied.  Sooner or later, you must come to the realization that “things” will never make you happy…Happiness is a state of “being”.  Choose to be happy now, with what you have, and where you are!  Lasting happiness, peace and joy is only to be found in those things that cannot be counted or measured.

Thought for the day
The same principle outlined above is the chief reason why some addicts go into relapse and then have slips.  They place conditions over their recovery.  Typically they are credit worthy rationalizations, for you see, this disease is cunning, baffling and powerful.  The excuses typically are centered on the spouse, work, the family and even church.  Soon adjustments are made about the one thing that must be unchanged; the commitment to recovery.  Addicts stop doing the things that got them the freedom they enjoy, like making the necessary number of meetings, doing step work, checking in with sponsors and others, being of service for their groups and doing all those little things that keep us sharp and focused.  Soon afterwards their spiritual program begins a downward spiral that ends in acting out.   Just as things will never make us happy…adjustments to the program will never bring us peace.  There is one program and it works…but it only works if you follow it as is.

Do not lay up for yourselves treasures on earth, where moth and rust destroy and where thieves break in and steal; but lay up for yourselves treasures in heaven, where neither moth nor rust destroys and where thieves do not break in and steal.  For where your treasure is, there your heart will be also.  No one can serve two masters; for either he will hate the one and love the other, or else he will be loyal to the one and despise the other.  You cannot serve God and mammon.  Therefore I say to you, do not worry about your life, what you will eat or what you will drink; nor about your body, what you will put on.  Is not life more than food and the body more than clothing?  For after all these things the Gentiles seek.  For your heavenly Father knows that you need all these things.  But seek first the kingdom of God and His righteousness, and all these things shall be added to you.   ~Jesus / Matthew 6:19-21,24,25,32,33 (NKJV)~


About SLAA Tilburg

Wat is seks- en liefdeverslaving? Wij in S.L.A.A. geloven dat seks- en liefdeverslaving een voortschrijdende ziekte is, die niet kan worden genezen maar die, zoals veel ziekten, wel tot staan kan worden gebracht. Zij kan verschillende vormen aannemen – inclusief (maar niet beperkt tot) een dwangmatige behoefte aan seks, extreme afhankelijkheid van één persoon (of meerdere personen), en/of een voortdurend in beslag genomen worden door romantiek, affaires of fantasieën. Er is sprake van een obsessief-dwangmatig patroon, seksueel of emotioneel (of beide), waarin relaties of seksuele activiteiten in toenemende mate destructief geworden zijn voor de loopbaan, het gezinsleven en het gevoel van zelfrespect. Als seks- en liefdeverslaving wordt veronachtzaamd, wordt zij altijd erger. Wanneer wij echter een eenvoudig programma volgen dat voor een reeks van mannen en vrouwen met dezelfde ziekte succesvol is gebleken, kunnen wij herstellen. In S.L.A.A. leren wij de realiteit te accepteren dat wij deze verslaving hebben
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