Thought for the Day
Nothing pays off like restraint of tongue and pen. We must avoid quick-tempered criticism, furious power-driven argument,sulking, and silent scorn.
These are emotional booby traps baited with pride and vengefulness. . . We can neither think nor act to good purpose until the habit of self-restraint has become automatic.
– As Bill Sees It, p. 179
Thought to Ponder . . .
If I am upset, I am the problem.
A A = Accountable Actions.
This reading is also in the 12 & 12 and needs to be updated to include texting and email. Let’s remember that once we hit the Send button it is too late to “take it back”. It is very difficult for us addicts not to be defensive… after all most of us have had decades of practice at passive aggression. We have mastered the art of pretending to be friendly, easy going folk while in reality we are controlling, judgmental and can be even cruel in retaliation. Oh yes, we can seem very nice until we hear something that even sounds like it might be accusatory. Those old feelings of worthlessness and not measuring up kick in, our Wolverine fangs come out and quickly we are in full metal jacket offense! Let us work (practice) on developing the ability to listen and analyze before we respond in a way that might be harmful to a relationship. Remember we do not need to respond to anything immediately. Load your brain before shooting your mouth! I do not say we need to be emotional wimps but let us make sure that our own negative feelings are not the cause of an unmeasured response. If we are going to defend a position strongly let us make sure that it has spiritual value. A good example might be speaking out against injustice, religious intolerance or abuse against the undeserving.