12-11: Focused Discipline…

Focused Discipline…

No horse gets anywhere until he is harnessed.  No stream or gas drives anything until it is confined.  No Niagara is ever turned into light and power until it is funneled.  No life ever grows great until it is focused, dedicated, disciplined.
~Harry Emerson Fosdick~

Viewing every mistake or setback as an opportunity to develop greater focus, increase determination or improve discipline will take us one step closer to realizing our goal.  Every defeat or rebuke can be used as a stepping stone to achieving ultimate victory.  Learning to look for what can be gained from every stumble allows us to view things in proper perspective, gives meaning and purpose to achieving our goals.  We must learn not to repeat the same mistakes time and again for we never know when our last chance will happen.

Thought for the day
For those who continue to relapse it is imperative that they learn to sit down with their sponsors (perhaps therapists as well) and unravel the last episode, dissecting it as if it were a living thing.   Carefully reviewing the events, feelings and emotions that preceded the start of the relapse and then analyzing not the symptom, but the underlying condition of misdirected instincts. These instincts gone wild allow our fears and resentments to drive our behaviors.  It is critical to our well being that we get down to causes and conditions.  We must learn to do things differently.  We must overcome our propensity to react to situations the same as always.  If we don’t we will surely die!

My son, do not despise or shrink from the chastening of the Lord [His correction by punishment or by subjection to suffering or trial]; neither be weary of or impatient about or loathe or abhor His reproof, For whom the Lord loves He corrects, even as a father corrects the son in whom he delights.  Happy (blessed, fortunate, enviable) is the man who finds skillful and godly Wisdom, and the man who gets understanding [drawing it forth from God’s Word and life’s experiences]… ~Proverbs 3:11-13 (Amp)~

No discipline is enjoyable while it is happening–it is painful! But afterward there will be a quiet harvest of right living for those who are trained in this way.  So take a new grip with your tired hands and stand firm on your shaky legs.  Mark out a straight path for your feet.  Then those who follow you, though they are weak and lame, will not stumble and fall but will become strong.
~Hebrews 12:11-12 (NLT)~

Heavenly Father, I know you are a loving God.  You have always been a loving God to me, otherwise I would be dead, in jail or in a mental institution rocking in a chair and singing to myself.  Help me to continue on the narrow path of right living by helping me overcome the daily little issues that seem to get under my skin, if I don’t deal with them.  Help me to be a clean and clear vessel of your goodness.  Help me to do right even when I want to do wrong.  Help me to know that it is in the difficult journey to meet you that I can rejoice in overcoming life’s minefields.  Help me to start living out each day rejoicing, not in what I accomplish that feeds my flesh, but in the receipt of the daily manna you graciously deliver to me.  Help me to recognize Jesus as he offers himself to me as my daily bread. In His holy name I pray.  Amen

About SLAA Tilburg

Wat is seks- en liefdeverslaving? Wij in S.L.A.A. geloven dat seks- en liefdeverslaving een voortschrijdende ziekte is, die niet kan worden genezen maar die, zoals veel ziekten, wel tot staan kan worden gebracht. Zij kan verschillende vormen aannemen – inclusief (maar niet beperkt tot) een dwangmatige behoefte aan seks, extreme afhankelijkheid van één persoon (of meerdere personen), en/of een voortdurend in beslag genomen worden door romantiek, affaires of fantasieën. Er is sprake van een obsessief-dwangmatig patroon, seksueel of emotioneel (of beide), waarin relaties of seksuele activiteiten in toenemende mate destructief geworden zijn voor de loopbaan, het gezinsleven en het gevoel van zelfrespect. Als seks- en liefdeverslaving wordt veronachtzaamd, wordt zij altijd erger. Wanneer wij echter een eenvoudig programma volgen dat voor een reeks van mannen en vrouwen met dezelfde ziekte succesvol is gebleken, kunnen wij herstellen. In S.L.A.A. leren wij de realiteit te accepteren dat wij deze verslaving hebben
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