10-11: An Addict’s Favorite Pastime…Navel Gazing

An Addict’s Favorite Pastime…Navel Gazing

To understand the world one must not be worrying about one’s self.
~Albert Einstein~

It’s very easy to fall into the trap of becoming completely absorbed in our own needs, wants, and desires.  The simple fact is self-actualization only comes as a result of learning to turn our focus outward, and upward.  In truly seeking to help others and meet their needs, relying on simple faith to see us through…not only are our own real needs always met, but we can begin to understand what life is all about, and start to understand and appreciate the meaning of “agape” love.

Thought for the day
In this world it is so easy to become self obsessed because we do not see our behavior to be all that different than that of some of our “normal” friends and even those claiming some degree of high spirituality.  Everyone should have a 50” Sony HD TV…right?  What we fail to recognize and what this world blinds us to is that there is a difference between wants and needs.  Everything today seems to be a need.  Our desire is not to accept responsibility for our actions, to sweep all wrongs under the rug of personal entitlement and choice and to place blame on others.  If only this…or if only that…Well the truth is that self victimization and an unwillingness to face the truth is a most selfish attitude which is driven by pride in reverse and a lack of humility.
Preoccupation with self separates us from God, from our fellow human beings and ultimately from ourselves. We must relearn to forget ourselves, to contemplate a God who draws us out of ourselves and to serve others as the ultimate expression of selfhood.  If we are right with Him our self esteem will not be dependent on what others think of us or what we own, and we will live in peace.  So next time you catch yourself checking out your navel, wake up and look upwards for the wisdom and strength to live rightly.

Jesus said unto him, Thou shalt love the Lord thy God with all thy heart, and with all thy soul, and with all thy mind.  This is the first and great commandment.  And the second is like unto it, Thou shalt love thy neighbour as thyself.  On these two commandments hang all the law and the prophets. ~Matthew 22:37-40~

…If we love one another, God abides in us, and His love is perfected in us.  By this we know that we abide in Him and He in us, because He has given us of His Spirit.  We have come to know and have believed the love which God has for us.  God is love, and the one who abides in love abides in God, and God abides in Him.  By this, love is perfected with us, so that we may have confidence in the day of judgement;  because as He is, so also are we in this world.  We love, because He first loved us.  If someone says, “I love God,” and hates his brother, he is a liar;  for the one who does not love his brother whom he has seen, cannot love God whom he has not seen.  And this commandment we have from Him, that the one who loves God should love his brother also.
~1 John 4:12,13,16,17,19-21 (NASB)~


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Wat is seks- en liefdeverslaving? Wij in S.L.A.A. geloven dat seks- en liefdeverslaving een voortschrijdende ziekte is, die niet kan worden genezen maar die, zoals veel ziekten, wel tot staan kan worden gebracht. Zij kan verschillende vormen aannemen – inclusief (maar niet beperkt tot) een dwangmatige behoefte aan seks, extreme afhankelijkheid van één persoon (of meerdere personen), en/of een voortdurend in beslag genomen worden door romantiek, affaires of fantasieën. Er is sprake van een obsessief-dwangmatig patroon, seksueel of emotioneel (of beide), waarin relaties of seksuele activiteiten in toenemende mate destructief geworden zijn voor de loopbaan, het gezinsleven en het gevoel van zelfrespect. Als seks- en liefdeverslaving wordt veronachtzaamd, wordt zij altijd erger. Wanneer wij echter een eenvoudig programma volgen dat voor een reeks van mannen en vrouwen met dezelfde ziekte succesvol is gebleken, kunnen wij herstellen. In S.L.A.A. leren wij de realiteit te accepteren dat wij deze verslaving hebben
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