12-10: People pleasing is not for leaders

People pleasing is not for leaders

Show me a guy who’s afraid to look bad, and I’ll show you a guy you can beat every time.

When we are called to a bold course of action, or it is necessary do things contrary to popular opinion, there will always be those that are quick to ridicule and scoff.  Some will even take offense, or strike out against us, and attempt to cast us in a bad light.  We do what must be done, because we know it is the right thing to do, not to gain the acceptance or approval of man, which is fleeting at best.  When you have a heartfelt conviction regarding a course of action, don’t fear what others may think or say…chances are, they’re going to think it or say it anyway!

Thought for the day
In 12 step rooms it is not proper to evangelize/promote our Christian faith however this does not mean we can’t speak of its principles of peace, love and justice.  It is of paramount importance to our spiritual growth that we not hide our spiritual beliefs for fear of upsetting others.
Are we afraid to speak out boldly in defense of the one Truth, the existence of a loving, righteous and just God, because we’re afraid of not being politically correct?  Are we afraid to speak out boldly in defense of His principles because we might be thought of as too “Christian”?  Jesus said; “you are either for me or against me”.  Which one are you?  If someone heard me in 12 step rooms would I be convicted of being a Christian?

Some, however, made fun of them and said, “They have had too much wine.  “Peter stood up with the Eleven, raised his voice and addressed the crowd:  “Fellow Jews and all of you who live in Jerusalem, let me explain this to you; listen carefully to what I say.  These men are not drunk, as you suppose.  It’s only nine in the morning!  No, this is what was spoken by the prophet Joel:  ” ‘In the last days, God says, I will pour out my Spirit on all people.  Your sons and daughters will prophesy, your young men will see visions,  your old men will dream dreams.  Even on my servants, both men and women, I will pour out my Spirit in those days, and they will prophesy.  ~Acts 2:13-18 (NIV)~

Moreover, it is [essentially] required of stewards that a man should be found faithful [proving himself worthy of trust].  But [as for me personally] it matters very little to me that I should be put on trial by you [on this point], and that you or any other human tribunal should investigate and question and cross-question me.  I do not even put myself on trial and judge myself.
I am not conscious of anything against myself, and I feel blameless; but I am not vindicated and acquitted before God on that account.  It is the Lord [Himself] Who examines and judges me.  So do not make any hasty or premature judgments before the time when the Lord comes [again], for He will both bring to light the secret things that are [now hidden] in darkness and disclose and expose the [secret] aims (motives and purposes) of hearts. Then every man will receive his [due] commendation from God. ~1 Corinthians 4:2-5 (Amp)~


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Wat is seks- en liefdeverslaving? Wij in S.L.A.A. geloven dat seks- en liefdeverslaving een voortschrijdende ziekte is, die niet kan worden genezen maar die, zoals veel ziekten, wel tot staan kan worden gebracht. Zij kan verschillende vormen aannemen – inclusief (maar niet beperkt tot) een dwangmatige behoefte aan seks, extreme afhankelijkheid van één persoon (of meerdere personen), en/of een voortdurend in beslag genomen worden door romantiek, affaires of fantasieën. Er is sprake van een obsessief-dwangmatig patroon, seksueel of emotioneel (of beide), waarin relaties of seksuele activiteiten in toenemende mate destructief geworden zijn voor de loopbaan, het gezinsleven en het gevoel van zelfrespect. Als seks- en liefdeverslaving wordt veronachtzaamd, wordt zij altijd erger. Wanneer wij echter een eenvoudig programma volgen dat voor een reeks van mannen en vrouwen met dezelfde ziekte succesvol is gebleken, kunnen wij herstellen. In S.L.A.A. leren wij de realiteit te accepteren dat wij deze verslaving hebben
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