04-10: Let’s Take Responsibility…

Let’s Take Responsibility…

Man must cease attributing his problems to his environment, and learn again to exercise his will — his personal responsibility. ~Albert Schweitzer~

Too often, we tend to blame everything and everyone else for our misfortune, problems and any resulting bad behaviors and attitudes.  There comes a time when we must accept that we are responsible for the consequences of our own actions, the attitude with which we choose to face each day, how we behave toward others, and for doing to the best of our ability the tasks that have been placed before us.

Thought for the day
As part of our condition we always seem to look for blame outside of ourselves for our failures and difficulties.  This overwhelming reactive need to deflect responsibility may arise out of a past where we were often criticized and sometimes traumatized.  We must resolve these issues whether in the program, thru spiritual direction, with psychological help or a combination of these.  As long as we are incapable of assuming responsibility for our actions and the corresponding results, for just so long, will our ability to grow in the image and likeness of our Creator be hampered.   And will our abilities to develop meaningful intimate relationships be impossible!  Let us all be real, authentic, and admit to our wrongness, for it is in the overcoming of these personal trials and difficulties that we get an opportunity to recognize, accept and correct, with God’s help, our character deformities.

As God’s messenger, I give each of you this warning:  Be honest in your estimate of yourselves, measuring your value by how much faith God has given you.  Just as our bodies have many parts and each part has a special function, so it is with Christ’s body.  We are all parts of his one body, and each of us has different work to do.  And since we are all one body in Christ, we belong to each other, and each of us needs all the others.  God has given each of us the ability to do certain things well.  So if God has given you the ability to prophesy, speak out when you have faith that God is speaking through you.  If your gift is that of serving others, serve them well.  If you are a teacher, do a good job of teaching.  If your gift is to encourage others, do it!  If you have money, share it generously.  If God has given you leadership ability, take the responsibility seriously.  And if you have a gift for showing kindness to others, do it gladly.  Don’t just pretend that you love others.  Really love them.  Hate what is wrong.  Stand on the side of the good.  Love each other with genuine affection, and take delight in honoring each other.  Never be lazy in your work, but serve the Lord enthusiastically.  Be glad for all God is planning for you.  Be patient in trouble, and always be prayerful. ~Romans 12:3-12 (NLT)~

Father God, Abba, Elohim, I come to you in need of wisdom and courage.  For so long I have denied all responsibilities for my difficulties, always playing the victim role, that I can no longer see the Truth in my life.  Help me today to see clearly where my actions, disposition and attitudes have helped to create the conflicts and difficulties I face today.  I can’t stand the feel of my pity pot anymore!  That porcelain throne is no longer comfortable.  It is cold, lonely and worst of all, it is now condemning!  If it is your will grant me the gifts of perseverance, discernment and wisdom that I may look within myself and find the courage to take up my cross, and continue the process of being purified by you.
Please help me not to deflect responsibility, but to look and correct those things that block the sunlight of the spirit from penetrating and cleansing my heart and soul.  I pray for this to happen, if it is your will, in the name above all names, Your Son and my Savior Jesus. Amen.


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Wat is seks- en liefdeverslaving? Wij in S.L.A.A. geloven dat seks- en liefdeverslaving een voortschrijdende ziekte is, die niet kan worden genezen maar die, zoals veel ziekten, wel tot staan kan worden gebracht. Zij kan verschillende vormen aannemen – inclusief (maar niet beperkt tot) een dwangmatige behoefte aan seks, extreme afhankelijkheid van één persoon (of meerdere personen), en/of een voortdurend in beslag genomen worden door romantiek, affaires of fantasieën. Er is sprake van een obsessief-dwangmatig patroon, seksueel of emotioneel (of beide), waarin relaties of seksuele activiteiten in toenemende mate destructief geworden zijn voor de loopbaan, het gezinsleven en het gevoel van zelfrespect. Als seks- en liefdeverslaving wordt veronachtzaamd, wordt zij altijd erger. Wanneer wij echter een eenvoudig programma volgen dat voor een reeks van mannen en vrouwen met dezelfde ziekte succesvol is gebleken, kunnen wij herstellen. In S.L.A.A. leren wij de realiteit te accepteren dat wij deze verslaving hebben
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