13-09: What Do You Say To That?

What Do You Say To That?
It is only imperfection that complains of what is imperfect.  The more perfect we are, the more gentle and quiet we become toward the defects of others.
~Joseph Addison~
Often, when someone strikes out at another, it is more a result of that which is lacking in them, than the actions of the other person.  Always consider the source when suffering the verbal attack of another.  The Big Book tells us that if the truth be known, it may not even really be about you, but that own individual’s fears, pride, anxieties or faults, being cast upon you. 
Thought for the day
When you yourself feel the urge to attack another, you would do well to take the time to consider the true source of your own ire.   There is much to learn in analyzing our feelings prior to taking action on them.  Remember once the words leave our mouth or the email leaves our PC…it is too late to take them back!
Please consider adding the following supplication to your daily prayers.  Father God, allow me to know personal freedom today by allowing me not to pass judgment on another human being”.
The good man brings good things out of the good stored up in his heart, and the evil man brings evil things out of the evil stored up in his heart.  For out of the overflow of his heart his mouth speaks.  ~Luke 6:45 (NIV)~

My friends, don’t say cruel things about others!  If you do, or if you condemn others, you are condemning God’s Law.  And if you condemn the Law, you put yourself above the Law and refuse to obey either it or God who gave it.  God is our judge, and he can save or destroy us.  What right do you have to condemn anyone? ~James 4:11-13 (CEV)~

All of us do many wrong things.  But if you can control your tongue, you are mature and able to control your whole body.  By putting a bit into the mouth of a horse, we can turn the horse in different directions.  It takes strong winds to move a large sailing ship, but the captain uses only a small rudder to make it go in any direction.  Our tongues are small too, and yet they brag about big things.  It takes only a spark to start a forest fire!  The tongue is like a spark.  It is an evil power that dirties the rest of the body and sets a person’s entire life on fire with flames that come from hell itself…My dear friends, with our tongues we speak both praises and curses.  We praise our Lord and Father, and we curse people who were created to be like God, and this isn’t right.  Can clean water and dirty water both flow from the same spring?  ~James 3:1-6,9-11 (CEV)~


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Wat is seks- en liefdeverslaving? Wij in S.L.A.A. geloven dat seks- en liefdeverslaving een voortschrijdende ziekte is, die niet kan worden genezen maar die, zoals veel ziekten, wel tot staan kan worden gebracht. Zij kan verschillende vormen aannemen – inclusief (maar niet beperkt tot) een dwangmatige behoefte aan seks, extreme afhankelijkheid van één persoon (of meerdere personen), en/of een voortdurend in beslag genomen worden door romantiek, affaires of fantasieën. Er is sprake van een obsessief-dwangmatig patroon, seksueel of emotioneel (of beide), waarin relaties of seksuele activiteiten in toenemende mate destructief geworden zijn voor de loopbaan, het gezinsleven en het gevoel van zelfrespect. Als seks- en liefdeverslaving wordt veronachtzaamd, wordt zij altijd erger. Wanneer wij echter een eenvoudig programma volgen dat voor een reeks van mannen en vrouwen met dezelfde ziekte succesvol is gebleken, kunnen wij herstellen. In S.L.A.A. leren wij de realiteit te accepteren dat wij deze verslaving hebben
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