02-09: 12th Step

12th Step


The best portion of a good man’s life is his little, nameless, unremembered acts of kindness and of love. ~William Wordsworth~

You may never know the lasting impact of a simple gesture of love and kindness.  Not only can it change someone’s entire perspective or direction (including your own), but such acts may become magnified many times over.  There is a ripple effect, much like the stirring up of still waters.  When given, they tend to multiply and are passed on to others.  Watch for these small opportunities, as they are the substance of life.  It’s not the great feats of accomplishment that most remember, but the needed smile, the approving look, the encouraging word, or the helping hand in time of trouble.  


Thought for the day

Unlike popular belief the 12th step (loving our neighbor as ourselves) is not optional.   This God given commandment is not limited to work in our fellowships and should not be contingent upon our feelings.   So the question we must ask ourselves is; am I really working the maintenance steps?   If so, what am I doing that represents my spiritual growth and where are my fruits?


A friend loves at all times, and is born, as is a brother, for adversity. ~Proverbs 17:17 (Amp)~

"A new commandment I give to you, that you love one another,  even as I have loved you, that you also love one another. By this all men will know that you are My disciples, if you have love for one another." ~Jesus /John 13:34,35 (NASB)~

Beloved, let us love one another: for love is of God; and every one that loveth is born of God, and knoweth God.  He that loveth not knoweth not God; for God is love. ~1 John 4:7,8~

To sum up, all of you be harmonious, sympathetic, brotherly, kindhearted, and humble in spirit;  not returning evil for evil or insult for insult, but giving a blessing instead; for you were called for the very purpose that you might inherit a blessing.
~1 Peter 3:8,9 (NASB)~


About SLAA Tilburg

Wat is seks- en liefdeverslaving? Wij in S.L.A.A. geloven dat seks- en liefdeverslaving een voortschrijdende ziekte is, die niet kan worden genezen maar die, zoals veel ziekten, wel tot staan kan worden gebracht. Zij kan verschillende vormen aannemen – inclusief (maar niet beperkt tot) een dwangmatige behoefte aan seks, extreme afhankelijkheid van één persoon (of meerdere personen), en/of een voortdurend in beslag genomen worden door romantiek, affaires of fantasieën. Er is sprake van een obsessief-dwangmatig patroon, seksueel of emotioneel (of beide), waarin relaties of seksuele activiteiten in toenemende mate destructief geworden zijn voor de loopbaan, het gezinsleven en het gevoel van zelfrespect. Als seks- en liefdeverslaving wordt veronachtzaamd, wordt zij altijd erger. Wanneer wij echter een eenvoudig programma volgen dat voor een reeks van mannen en vrouwen met dezelfde ziekte succesvol is gebleken, kunnen wij herstellen. In S.L.A.A. leren wij de realiteit te accepteren dat wij deze verslaving hebben
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