In every conflict, ask, "Would I rather be peaceful or right?"
The choice to be peaceful rather than right doesn’t actually mean our opinions are unimportant. In fact, our particular opinions may make more sense in the larger scheme of things. Letting go of the battle is certainly far more sensible than the folly of expecting to change another person’s mind. I credit Al-Anon with strengthening this resolve in me. The power of detachment, the willingness to choose to be peaceful rather than make every conversation a battleground, is freedom at its very best. There is no mystery in how this is done. It’s a decision any one of us can make as often as the opportunity to disagree comes up.
We don’t really even have to hope for a more peaceful life. It’s ours just as quickly as we make the choice to want something different in our daily interactions. Remember, those who come forth provide us with opportunities for practicing peace.
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Cultivating Hope by Karen Casey. Copyright 2009 by Hazelden Foundation. All rights reserved. Printed in the United States of America. No portion of this publication may be reproduced in any manner without the written permission of Hazelden.