This is a simple program for complicated people.
–Saying heard at meetings
I heard a speaker with years in recovery share that she’d always done it her own way – that she met friends at bars if she felt like it, had never had a sponsor, and sometimes went for months without a meeting. I know newcomers who’ve done similar things. What’s the big deal?
Some people in recovery cling to rebellion. While they don’t want to return to the horrors of active addiction, they aren’t willing to surrender what they think of as individualism. They "get away with" skipping Steps and ignoring suggestions. One helps out at meetings, but keeps booze in the house. One gives advice to newcomers, but goes un-sponsored.
The program doesn’t ask that we give up what truly makes each of us an individual. It offers us clear guidelines, and promises that if we follow them, we won’t have to risk a relapse. The program works for us, if we work it. Testing our recovery by trying to see what we can "get away with" is like playing a game of Russian roulette.
Today, I feel safety and strength as I follow the principles of this program. I know that true individuality comes from the self-knowledge that recovery affords me.
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If You Want What We Have by Joan Larkin
If You Want What We Have. Copyright 1998 by Joan Larkin. All rights reserved. Printed in the United States of America. No portion of this publication may be reproduced in any manner without the written permission of Hazelden.