The Pull…

The Pull…

Pull the string, and it will follow wherever you wish.  Push it, and it will go
nowhere at all. ~Dwight D. Eisenhower~

It is love’s kindness that witnesses and draws people to the truth.  When pushed, the natural reaction of most is to rebel, or push back, accomplishing little if any lasting result, other than to aggravate the situation further.  Showing understanding, compassion, support and encouragement instead, draws others to respond in the same way, and will open the door for heartfelt conviction to do that which is right.   

Thought for the day
Over the years I have been in recovery I’ve been accused of being too harsh, too direct, too overbearing, too self righteous, too close minded, etc, etc, etc.  I am aware of my need to speak the Truth but not in a way that sounds harsh.  I must say it is a struggle for me, partly because I did not receive nurturing as a child but also because in our fellowship too much nurturing borders on the “new age fluff spirituality of comfort” that promotes the “if you are Ok, then I must be OK” strategy of living.  In SAA this has morphed into a syndrome of stagnation to support repeated failures (slips).  Not too many of us are ready and willing to abide by a set of spiritual principles that demand strict accountability.
Completely overriding this intellectual and spiritual debate is the one true Christian message of love, true unconditional love as presented by Our Lord Jesus.  So, what does all of this mean to you?  Hopefully the same it means to me; an ongoing effort to strengthen my faith, honesty and integrity.  For me this can be found only in my understanding of the Truth as I continue to seek recovery above all things.  So are you really loving others by your acceptance of their failures or are you hiding out in the shadows of others so you will think of yourself as OK while really making little effort to work at your recovery?
The LORD has appeared of old to me, saying:  "Yes, I have loved you with an everlasting love; Therefore with loving kindness I have drawn you…"
~Jeremiah 31:3 (NKJV)~

Don’t mistreat someone who has mistreated you. But try to earn the respect of others, and do your best to live at peace with everyone. Dear friends, don’t try to get even…The Scriptures also say, "If your enemies are hungry, give them something to eat.  And if they are thirsty, give them something to drink.  This will be the same as piling burning coals on their heads."  Don’t let evil defeat you, but defeat evil with good. ~Romans 12:17,18,20-22 (CEV)~

Since God chose you to be the holy people whom he loves, you must clothe yourselves with tenderhearted mercy, kindness, humility, gentleness, and patience.  You must make allowance for each other’s faults and forgive the person who offends you. Remember, the Lord forgave you, so you must forgive others.  And the most important piece of clothing you must wear is love. Love is what binds us all together in perfect harmony.  And let the peace that comes from Christ rule in your hearts. For as members of one body you are all called to live in peace. And always be thankful.  Let the words of Christ, in all their richness, live in your hearts and make you wise. Use his words to teach and counsel each other… ~Colossians 3:12-16 (NLT)~


About SLAA Tilburg

Wat is seks- en liefdeverslaving? Wij in S.L.A.A. geloven dat seks- en liefdeverslaving een voortschrijdende ziekte is, die niet kan worden genezen maar die, zoals veel ziekten, wel tot staan kan worden gebracht. Zij kan verschillende vormen aannemen – inclusief (maar niet beperkt tot) een dwangmatige behoefte aan seks, extreme afhankelijkheid van één persoon (of meerdere personen), en/of een voortdurend in beslag genomen worden door romantiek, affaires of fantasieën. Er is sprake van een obsessief-dwangmatig patroon, seksueel of emotioneel (of beide), waarin relaties of seksuele activiteiten in toenemende mate destructief geworden zijn voor de loopbaan, het gezinsleven en het gevoel van zelfrespect. Als seks- en liefdeverslaving wordt veronachtzaamd, wordt zij altijd erger. Wanneer wij echter een eenvoudig programma volgen dat voor een reeks van mannen en vrouwen met dezelfde ziekte succesvol is gebleken, kunnen wij herstellen. In S.L.A.A. leren wij de realiteit te accepteren dat wij deze verslaving hebben
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