Leading By Example…

Leading By Example… 

Who has not served cannot command. ~John Florio~

In order to effectively lead others, one must first learn how to serve.  While position, power and strength may allow for a temporary ability to rule over others, in the long run it can never be sustained.  Only leading by example, with humility and a servant’s heart, produces a permanent following.  Also the same for teaching which a leader does.  One cannot expect to teach without knowledge; not the superficial kind of book knowledge but the real deep knowledge that comes from time tested experience.  That knowledge we call wisdom.   For an addict this wisdom can not be gotten in months or simply by working steps the first time around.  No, it requires time, observance and most of all personal experience which is the strength from which all conviction grows.
Thought for the day
Am I obsessed or preoccupied with becoming a leader in SAA?  If so, then why?  If I look at my motives will I find a motive that is pure and godly or am I just allowing my pride and self centeredness to take root here?  If God has indeed selected this ministry for me, can I pay the price to lead?  Can I commit to making at least 2 meetings per week?  Can I devote time to reading all recovery material?  Can I be a beacon of light for those still in the darkness?  Will I serve one as well as tens?  Can I give up my time to serve others?  Am I willing to accept the arrows that are slung my way?  It is ok to answer yes and it is ok to answer no as long as we are being honest with ourselves.  We need leaders…. but we also need soldiers who are willing to make the coffee, set up a room, be a treasurer, a secretary. In SAA or other 12 step fellowships we cannot be leaders unless we are willing not to be liked. Our self-esteem should not be tied to popularity.  If we are people pleasers or care more about outside appearances than spiritual integrity we can never lead… for true leadership will often require going against the flow.

And whosoever of you will be the chiefest, shall be servant of all.  For even the Son of man came not to be ministered unto, but to minister, and to give his life a ransom for many. ~Mark 10:44,45~

Jesus, knowing that the Father had given all things into His hands, and that He had come forth from God and was going back to God, got up from supper, and laid aside His garments; and taking a towel, He girded Himself.  Then He poured water into the basin, and began to wash the disciples’ feet and to wipe them with the towel with which He was girded…So when He had washed their feet, and taken His garments and reclined at the table again, He said to them, "Do you know what I have done to you? "You call Me Teacher and Lord; and you are right, for so I am.  "If I then, the Lord and the Teacher, washed your feet, you also ought to wash one another’s feet. "For I gave you an example that you also should do as I did to you.  "Truly, truly, I say to you, a slave is not greater than his master, nor is one who is sent greater than the one who sent him.  "If you know these things, you are blessed if you do them. ~John 13:3-5,12-17 (NASB)~


About SLAA Tilburg

Wat is seks- en liefdeverslaving? Wij in S.L.A.A. geloven dat seks- en liefdeverslaving een voortschrijdende ziekte is, die niet kan worden genezen maar die, zoals veel ziekten, wel tot staan kan worden gebracht. Zij kan verschillende vormen aannemen – inclusief (maar niet beperkt tot) een dwangmatige behoefte aan seks, extreme afhankelijkheid van één persoon (of meerdere personen), en/of een voortdurend in beslag genomen worden door romantiek, affaires of fantasieën. Er is sprake van een obsessief-dwangmatig patroon, seksueel of emotioneel (of beide), waarin relaties of seksuele activiteiten in toenemende mate destructief geworden zijn voor de loopbaan, het gezinsleven en het gevoel van zelfrespect. Als seks- en liefdeverslaving wordt veronachtzaamd, wordt zij altijd erger. Wanneer wij echter een eenvoudig programma volgen dat voor een reeks van mannen en vrouwen met dezelfde ziekte succesvol is gebleken, kunnen wij herstellen. In S.L.A.A. leren wij de realiteit te accepteren dat wij deze verslaving hebben
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