Once I have learned to set my boundaries, others may try to ignore them or accuse me of being selfish.
I know my boundaries have been crossed when I begin to feel uncomfortable inside, and I need to pay attention to this feeling. If others are used to relating to me in a certain way, and I’m changing, it usually means they have to change too.
They may resist this change, but I’m not here to make other people happy; I’m here to make myself happy. If I don’t want to change my mind about a boundary I’ve set, I don’t have to. Other people will have to learn to live with the "new me."
I recognize this new attitude as a sign that I’m getting stronger every day.
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Time to Break Free by Judith R. Smith
Time to Break Free. Copyright 1999 by Judith R. Smith. All rights reserved. Printed in the United States of America. No portion of this publication may be reproduced in any manner without the written permission of Hazelden.